I’m back in the blog scene, and it sure feels great to be back! I’ve dramatically fixed up this blog since I last used it, and I think it looks decent.
It’s not perfect, but then again, nothing is.
Speaking on the notion of perfection, we as individual human beings have our own unique opinions of what we consider to be “perfect”, and these opinions can be reflected in how we perceive the outside world, and the way we present ourselves in the online world. Knowing that I’m not a perfect person, I decided to present myself in a way that honestly correlates with the person I am in real life. I’m not here to tell you about the time I played Ultimate Frisbee on the sun AND dug a tunnel to China, but I’m here to introduce myself to a stranger. As you may have noticed from that last sentence, I lied twice. However, those lies were so ridiculous that there is no way that anyone has done either of those things. They were subtle jokes, not lies. I like to make jokes. I think they’re a good reflection of my personality, especially on my personal blog. It’s my form of self-presentation.
I hate lying. I’m awful at it, and it’s extremely humiliating when people find out. Like Mark Twain once said, “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” If you’re honest with yourself and with others, then you’ll have less to stress out about.
Here’s an example. Imagine you’re on a dating site and you mention several skills you don’t have, but you wish you did, like tying your shoes. You meet someone and you go on a date. You and your date have a spectacular conversation and you feel like you found your soul mate. After the great date, your date wants you to tie their shoes because they don’t remember. You said you knew how to tie shoes, but you really don’t. You’re wearing Velcro walking shoes. What do you do? Confess to your lie and never see your date again, or find a lame excuse and lose their respect? Either way, we can avoid these stressful dilemmas if we simply tell the truth from the start. We don’t need to tell people every single thing about ourselves if we don’t want to, but we shouldn’t make stuff up to make ourselves look better. Next time you want to fabricate a lie, ask yourself: who are you trying to impress? Let’s face it; we all have skills that we’re good at, and some people might not be impressed by our skills. If we come to terms with that fact, we will feel happier in the long run. There are over 7 billion people on Earth. Some people may like us, some people may not. My point is to be proud of what we already have. Count your blessings, and respect who you are. I don’t have too many skills that I wish I had, but I’m still proud of the few that I have.
There were several aspects of my life that I refused to share on my blog, including my email, because it’s unnecessary. That’s why I made one up in my “About Me” page. When I was editing this blog, I came across some instances where I asked myself, “what will I get out of putting this on the blog?” We should be very careful with how we manage our identities online. The imagined audience that you have in mind may not be the real audience that exists. You don’t know who’s really looking at the stuff you publish online. As there are plenty of good things that can be proudly shared online, there are also plenty of things that should NEVER be shared online. Would you post your Social Security Number on Twitter? I mean, if you really want to share it, go ahead… but I highly recommend that you DON’T! Like Las Vegas, whatever we post on the Internet stays on the Internet. Because of this, we should keep our private lives private because we never know when it could be used against us. Instead, we should strategically create a balance of information we should share, and which information we should keep to ourselves.
I hope this blog post was as fun for you to read as it was for me to write.
Thanks for reading,